How To Identify Your Sexual Kinks — Everything about Kinks
Sex. Making love. Fucking. Romping. Whichever way you choose to label your poison, you should include some kink in there. Kinky sex isn’t all about burning your partner’s ass with candle wax, shaving her pubic hair, throwing his cock in your mouth till you gag. If you are not into this exploration that’s okay. Hang on, there must be something here that will work for you. I am well aware we have some extreme kinks out there and all work out for everyone into them. As long you are not hurting anyone in any way, do you, boo.
What Is My Kink?
Finding out what your kink is can be an uphill task for some of us. It is very easy to have desires, admiration, and some interest in certain things, however, it’s equally hard to know what you are comfortable with and willing to practice in the bedroom with your loved one. Kinks vary from person to person, in order to know what you really are into, you have to search within your Pandora Box of Kink and explore. Getting sloppy on the first trial doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for you — third is the charm, right?
From licking the ass to a threesome, having sex on the balcony, exploring with toys, BDSM sex, to the subtle never-ending kissing sessions in the bedroom and the not for many people extreme of sharing body fluids — such as swallowing cum or sucking on your partner’s vaginal fluids is a kink to be explored. If you are in any of these and so many that I’ve not mentioned, you do have a kink. I believe everyone has a kink.
Finding your freak side in the bedroom isn’t hard especially if you have a supportive, explorative partner. It becomes so easy to be comfortable to spill out all your sexual desires and fantasies which may be your kinks after all.
Is My Kink Offensive?
No. dear. I have always insisted, if your kink doesn’t involve hurting someone without their consent, then you are allowed to explore whatever works for you. Sex world is a vast, complicated land. You are allowed to own your kink if it turns your sexual side on.
I do understand that some kinks are offensive to some people. Kinks such as dehumanization kink are not very much welcomed in our “uptight” society, people have different ethical and moral standards. This doesn't mean you shouldn’t explore what you are into. It is your sexuality we are talking about here. No one but you and your sexual partner should matter or have a say in it.
How Will I know My Kink?
This is the million-dollar question. When it comes to kinks and fantasies there is a very fine line. Kinks involve things that you love going on with your sex life. You wouldn’t mind if you had them done to you or satisfy them via your partner each day of your sex life. Fantasies are stuff that you would love to explore in order to know if you really are into them or not. When it comes to fantasies, most people figure out that they are into it or not.
Fantasies are a road map for most people when figuring out their sexual kink. If you find yourself longing for something in the bedroom for a long time and you find it absolutely comfortable to practice the thought with your partner, without a doubt, that may be your kink.
Kinks are also stuff that turns you on and makes you feel more connected with your sexual side as a human being.
I Am Not Into BDSM. Can I still Have Kink?
As vanilla as you can be, trust me you do have a kink.
Having a kink doesn’t mean go calling your sex partner slut ,stacking your partner’s dirty underwear in your secret drawer, tying up your loved one, and all BDSM stuff. You be can into flowers in bed, candles while having sex, you can love your partner smelling a certain way in bed. All the subtle things that make your sex experience go a notch higher, satisfy your sexual neediness, fully exploit your desires, are your soft kinks.
What Can Be Kink?
Kinks are outrageously vast! Most men's kinks include Pussy Worshipping, Roleplay, Outfits — mostly leather and silk is associated with sex- Buttholes, Wax play, Oral sex, Submissive — Playing a reverse role of your day to day life activities is a widely explored role. Men in power love it when their partners control them in bed. Men who don’t have any kind of social power in their lives love being given power in bed. It is reverse psychology.
Women are submissive creatures. It is very easy to find submissive women than dominant ones. Wax play, Foreplay, BDSM, Praise kink, Oral play.
These are just a few of the common kinks out there. The scale of kink is immeasurable. There are wild, naughty, subtle, crazy, fun, sensual kinks and they are welcome. This is just what works for you. If you love licking feet, gaping, fingering panty to side, licking and sucking, breeding, name-calling, sadism, masochism, to name but a few, you are completely allowed to explore your kinks- without hurting or exploiting anyone.
Can Sex Be Enjoyable Without Kinks?
Of course! Sex can be just sex, and that’s okay. Sometimes “normal” sex is as satisfying as kink-filled sex. There are no rules. It's up to you and your partner. What works for you as a couple might not include kinky sex. It is all about understanding what your loved one wants and craves and acting on it. Sometimes, that doesn’t include kinky sex.
But if we exercise to stay healthy. We read books to keep our brains healthy. We eat well to maintain good health. Why then can’t we explore kinks to keep sex alive? Relationships especially marriages fail because of various things, including sex. If the spark, longing, craving, wanting and excitement in marital sex declines, trouble is around the corner. Don’t get me wrong. Kink sex won't save your broken relationship, that will need a different kind of intervention. Every illness with its pill, right?
Does Kink Fade?
The general fact of life is that Change Is Constant. Kinks are not discriminated against the rule. Things change. You’ll love swimsuits today and tomorrow you are into winter coats. There is no rule into what you’ll be into 5 or 8 years from now. You just have to get soaked into what you are into and explore unapologetically.
Whether you’ll be into car sex or bush sex next year doesn’t matter. You are a human being in connection with his/her sexual side and that is a freaking big win!
How Do I Communicate My Kinks?
Okay. Listen. Don’t go talking about your kinks on the first date. You know better than that, right? Of course, if the topic comes up, roll with it. Kinks should be communicated openly and honestly between sexual partners, even potential ones. There’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. As long as there is consent and it gets you going, you should be free enough to explore. Nothing should be considered taboo or shameful on that account.
Communicate the same way you say you’d want him/her to be on top or have you on top of the Effiel Tower. You’ll be amazed how free, honest sex talk can connect both of you. You might even share the same kink!
If you are embarrassed about your kinks that’s okay. Take it easy on yourself. As you continue to exploit the kink, it gets easier to get into the groove. Ease up, let go and enjoy your sexual side!
What Should I do About My Harmful Kinks?
I am a great advocate of exploring sex to wherever the adventure takes you. I do that in my life and I can’t be anymore happier. I simply love everything sexual. I’m not a great team player at hurting others to fulfill my sexual fantasies and kinks. Safe, consensual sex is the best! If you think of hurting anyone to fulfill your sexual desires, I’d advise you to get help as soon as possible. Talk to someone. Go to therapy. Refrain from the thoughts. I don’t care. Just don’t hurt anyone in the name of sexual liberation and exploration.
When it comes to sex kinks, we are all unique. We should embrace and live it. It doesn’t hurt to see what kinky sex has to offer for you. Go on now, Explore.
